I feel as if our reality would approve tremendously if more people took a risk at appearing more vulnerable. Many people don’t want to appear vulnerable because they wouldn’t want to be taken advantage of or ridiculed for being a way that may or may not be pleasing to others. I believe that if each individual would not just show a front stage but their back stage as well at the same time, many would realize that the person who they thought so highly of is just as flawed as they are. Many individuals want to act like they have it all together so no one can tell them that they are weak but that doesn’t matter because that very person making you feel “act” a certain way is also weak in some aspect that does not make him or her very appealing. I feel it’s very interesting however for us to say what to do and how to do it but when it’s time to put it into action, it seems impossible. Goffman states our front stage is basically something that may not even be a true character or personality trait of us but something we want others to see and think about us. It would be very interesting if our leaders decided to put their pride aside (their front stage) and work for a solution. However, I doubt any of them would because their front stage displays them as a powerful, authoritative, high ranking individual versus being just like a non-leader. Leaders trying to lead and showing themselves as regular citizens would not make them feel as powerful as they would like to feel. I myself only show a front stage in many situations and settings however I feel I don’t display anything false however I am still displaying only things I want others to see and know about me.
I completely agree with you about the value of knowledge. It is just sad sometimes where we get our knowledge because many times it isn’t from a creditable place. But the value fro knowledge is as good as money for most of us. I feel it is one-sided as there is only the lookout to act in a way that will garner positive responses and not negative ones. There is almost a label put on actions as right and wrong. It is right if it has positive effects and wrong if it has negative effects. This can lead to a very unbalanced way of living. Do you think it might be because of how our education system is set up? If you are right you get positive praise and if you are wrong, there is such a quickness to make you realize the right answer, and not much of an explanation and encouragement in your mistake? There is a vanity issue, because, like you said, there is a sense of concealing the back stage behavior as it might not be seen a positive view of us. If only there wasn’t a care in the world of what people think, then there would be no sense in having a front and back stage, there would be just one stage. But then again, there would also be less of a push to learn manners and politeness too, no?
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.